ould't it be nice if the person that wronged you could feel sorry for what they have done and come and ask forgiveness? But the truth is, this will seldom happen, or would it? If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat, and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink, for you will heap burning coals on his head, and the LORD will reward you._{Pro 25:21,22} Most people are oblivious to the wrong they have done others. Not only don't they have any compassion and empathy, there is also an attitude of "I don't care" regarding someone else's pain, especially if they are the cause of the pain.

The only way that I can see that a person like that can change is if the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give them the Spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of Him, having their eyes of their hearts enlightened, that they may know what is the hope to which he has called them. _{Eph 1:18}

You see its only when the Lord touches our hearts that we can change. Some people are so blinded by the Law that they have to be struck with blindness before they can see. Saul rose from the ground, and although his eyes were opened, he saw nothing. So they led him by the hand and brought him into Damascus. And for three days he was without sight, and neither ate nor drank. _{Act 9:8} If this can happen to someone like Paul, don't you think we can also fall in this trap. In Step 1 we asked for Justice (The Law). Now its time to ask for Grace. But Grace for yourself. I think you should first receive grace for YOUR faults before you can ask it for others. Remember this : The LORD is slow to anger and great in power, and the LORD will by no means clear the guilty.. _{Nah 1:3}Don't you think he was slow to anger for YOU? I want you to read the fist paragraph again. This time consider that someone else is reading it and praying for YOU. If you think you haven't wronged anyone that in itself is evidence that you are blind. But when one turns to the Lord, the veil is removed for where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. _{2Co 3:16}

This is what forgiveness is: It started off with someone else and ends with YOU. Forgiveness is about YOU. And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses." _{Mar 11:25} For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you; But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. _{Mat 6:14,15}